It's human nature to worry, but did you know that a research project at Penn State
University found that 91% of what people worry about never actually happens? In other words, most of your fears never come
that still leaves 9% of worries that do come true but, fortunately, the same
research revealed that on these occasions 70% of people found they handled the
situation better than they had expected and/or they learned something valuable
from what happened. In other words, their
fear had been worse than the actual situation.
remember that, like you, everyone worries and experiences fear - but most of
those fears never materialise! When they
do they will rarely be as bad as you imagined, you’ll handle them better than
you expected and you’ll often learn something useful along the way.
There's no single ‘magic bullet’ that will overcome your worries and fears and stop
them from ruining your life but here are three strategies that may help.
fear. The Swiss psychologist Carl Jung believed that "What you resist not only persists but
will grow in size." The more you shy
away from your worries and fears the more they will grow and come to dominate
your life. But once you acknowledge and
accept them for what they really are they will shrink and lose their hold on
Reframe your fear. Many people are habitual 'catastrophisers',
always assuming the worst will happen. If
you find yourself thinking like this remember that 91% of fears never come true,
start thinking about the BEST possible outcome, and then focus your imagination
on exploring that scenario.
courage. Just like any skill, courage starts small and becomes
bigger and stronger the more you use it. Practice removing worry from your life one fear at a time and, each time
you do, your courage will grow.
it comes down to it we don't have much control over the good and bad things
that happen to us. But two things we can
control are our mind-set and our response to circumstances. Facing up to your fears is a sure way of
overcoming them so why not start right now? Acknowledge a fear that's
worrying you, embrace it, reframe it and overcome it with your new-found
courage. Gradually remove your fears one
by one and you'll be free to enjoy life again.